Kade’s Eulogy 5

Dear family and friends,

When God gives you a child, you have no idea what the future holds, and you immediately start making plans and aspirations for your baby.  You can make all the plans you want, but God has his plan too, and no matter how bumpy or smooth the path, it is the Perfect Plan.

It is no secret that Kade’s path was full of obstacles, but he had his share of smooth patches too.  God knew Kade’s path when He made Kade, and it was Perfect.  Sure Kade spent more than his fair share of time in the hospital.  Sure, Kade lost countless moments to seizures.  Sure, Kade never verbally spoke, walked or even sat on his own.  But what made his journey perfect is what he taught us, and who he brought into our life.

The day kade started having seizures he brought some VERY special people into our life.  Nurse Tina Klassing was one of the first nurses on the 12th floor to take care of Kade.  God put her in Kade’s room as part of His perfect Plan.  Tina was not only Kade’s nurse, she turned into our counsler, playmate for Kade, she setup a play date for Jackson, and most importantly became a great friend.  Another very special person God and Kade put in our life that day was Dr. P, one of the world’s best neurologists.  Dr P did not consider Kade just another kid with seizures.  He took time to get to know us as a family.  He stayed in Kade’s room until ALL of our questions were answered.  Unfortunately he moved to Seattle to work on ground breaking DNA research but to this day still holds Kade in his heart, and on the top of his research list.

The next group of people God and Kade brought into our life were our GREAT Therapists and support people from First Steps.  These ladies came into our home, and worked with Kade, hours on end, to teach his muscles what to do.  Almost every night of the week, we had at least one of these wonderful women in our home.  I dont know where we would be with out Shelly, Krista, Pam, Brandellen, and Jo.

Some of our most cherished memories with Kade are the amazing Make-a-Wish trip we took to Disney World.  We had a wonderful time visiting the characters and Kade had a one on one meeting with Barney!  The best part about it, we were there together as a family, grand parents included!  Thank you Make-a-Wish!

Kade transitioned from First Steps to the Early Childhood Special Education system when he turned 3.  We were introduced to more amazing people including new therapists and a wonderful teacher, Melanie.  Immediately Melanie became an advocate for Kade and put a thermometer on his wheelchair so the bus driver would know if Kade was getting to hot.  

Kade’s life wasn’t about what he couldn’t do, it was about showing others what THEY can do.  He taught us so many things.  He showed us that we had more patience than we could ever imagine, more love than we thought possible, and how to fight for those without a voice.  He opened doors, made friends, showed others how to love, all with a goofy Elvis smile on his face.

Kade has a very special relationships with both sets of Grand Parents.  They were extra sets of parents for Kade.  Without them, things would have been so very different.  He loved all of them SOOOOOOO VERY MUCH.  Kade loved his big brother too.  Jackson went out of his way to make sure Kade was involved in everything he could be, even as a special guest in his classroom.  Jackson is the best big brother and Kade loves him for that.  God put another very special Jackson in his life.  One day while at Vision Therapy Kade got to meet a little boy, named Jackson.  They never said a word to each other, but they were the best of friends, and as God’s plan unfolded, were classmates.  

Dr P told me one day that he ran more tests on Kade in 2 weeks than he typically runs on kids over a two year period.  What Dr P didn’t know is that Kade would do more in 3 years 8 months and 7 days than most adults do in a lifetime.

I did not come close to painting an accurate picture of the life Kade had or the lives he touched, but it gives you an idea.  I know, too, that I did not come close to mentioning everyone that helped us and Kade along the way.  Please know that we hold a very special place in our hearts for EVERYONE that has helped Kade or even took a moment to say hello.

When God came to Kade’s room Thursday night and took him home, the very first thing he did was opened his eyes nice and wide, stood up, kicked his wheelchair to the curb, and RAN around to meet all of the family and friends that were waiting for him.  God’s plan was perfect!

Kade, we love you, we miss you, and you will forever be in our hearts.  

Until we meet again.

Thank you
Josh and Annette

5 thoughts on “Kade’s Eulogy

  • Kristina

    Such a beautiful tribute to Kade. Thank you for sharing it with us. I can only imagine how hard it must have been to write it, but it is simply beautiful!

  • Chandra

    Beautiful Annette!!! His plan is perfect and we can only be blessed by it. It rarely comes in ways we expect but we are blessed nonetheless. Praying for you during this time.

  • Simon's Mom (aka Laura)

    When I read about Kade’s passing a few days ago, through Love that Max, I didn’t know your family, I had not read your blog before. But my heart broke. Not just because you lost your beautiful little boy, but because the day before I had nearly lost my little boy to a seizure. I’d been holding my fears inside so that I could be strong when my family needed me, but when I read your news, and then more about Kade, they came pouring out of me. Tears I’d held onto fell hard and fast for us both, and for all families of kids like ours, struggling to live and love and let go. I was angry. I was sad. I was scared. After a month of holding back, I finally wrote a post on my own blog about what we were going though, and I linked to Kade’s story. I wanted other people to know him, too.

    Today, Josh contacted me. He saw I had linked to his post and thanked me. Astonishingly, during what I can imagine must be such a difficult personal time for him, he had words of encouragement for me. I’m awed by this generosity of spirit.

    I thanked Josh for being an inspiration, and then he shared Kade’s eulogy with me, which I have just finished reading.

    I know that your family must be going through so much so intensely right now. And I know that while one chapter is ending, another begins. But please know how much it has meant to me to read your story. I’m learning, from you, that I am not alone, and that even during the most trying of times there is grace and love, and maybe for the first time I am seeing just a glimmer of God’s plan for me and my son.

  • D. S. Walker

    Your story is beautiful and you and your family have my deepest sympathy. I only wish I had found your blog sooner, but I will come back to read more of Kade’s stories if you keep the blog up. What an inspiring young life!

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